Tipping the Scales for Balloon Twisters
More then ever before, I have seen the rise in restaurants providing table side entertainment. While you wait to be seated, or for your meal to come, you can be entertained by a skilled magician or a fancy balloon animal.
This is wonderful. It provides the restaurant with a bit more time to get everything ready, it helps pass the time for the customers and the performers usually gets a nice tip.
As you have probably guessed by now, I am a performer. I twist balloon animals and cartoon parodies. They are quite wonderful. But I can’t help but wonder why I am tipped the same for a one balloon dog as I am for a 12 balloon monster truck that takes considerable amount of time. I understand that there are some who are only skilled enough to make a balloon dog. I think that there should be a difference in what he is tipped and what I am tipped.
What determines what someone is tipped? Is it the amount of skill they have at their craft? Is it how fervently they worked to please you? Or is it simply the lowest amount that you think you can get away with?
Well for those whose policy is the latter, I have bad news for you. Poor tipping leads to Balloon Flatulence.
Facts About Good and Bad Body Posture
Posture can be static or dynamic. Dynamic posture means that there is a change in the body position such as when you walk, jog, run or jump. Static posture occurs when you sit, lie or stand in one place. In today’s modern life static posture occurs a lot. Think of all the people who work at their computers the whole day, and of all the school children who sit at their desks for many hours per day.
Our physiques differ. Good posture occurs when there is a balance between the work load of the different skeletal muscles, the limbs and the joints. Problems occur when some of the muscles or joints get overloaded, such as when we carry a heavy weight in the one hand only. Signs of overloading are muscular and joint pains. Our posture is the result of the communication between the brain and the muscles and limbs. A good posture is maintained when the natural curves of the spinal column are maintained. We have to guard against sitting or walking with rounded shoulders. With good posture there is a balance between the left and right as well as the front and rear skeletal muscles. With a perfect balance between the muscles, there will be no overloading of muscles or joints. Regular exercise increases the brain’s communication with skeletal muscles, joints and limbs, leading to a good body posture.
With bad posture, this balance or communication is disturbed. Some muscles will be overworked while others will become weak. This leads to a situation of adapted body posture. One example of adapted body posture is in stroke victims. The brain is then not able to control the muscles and limbs as usual. Normally with a serious stroke the muscle use on the one side of the body is lost. There is a paralysis on that side. Bad body posture lead to muscle and joint pains. Fibrositis may also develop deep in the tissue of joints and muscles, with the accompanying pain and discomfort.
Which factors influence body posture? Major factors such as our modern life style and unbalanced muscle loading as well as the surface or structure which supports our bodies. Here we refer to the chair you sit in or the surface you walk or run on, or the mattress you sleep on. Furthermore your muscle strength and the condition of your joints also contribute to your body posture. Joints that are flexible contribute to a good posture. Our muscles and joints need to be exercised regularly to maintain strength and suppleness. Muscle stretching exercises help to warm the muscles which prepares them for more strenuous exercise.
Which exercises are best? Any exercise, or a combination of exercises are good, always starting and ending with the warming exercises. Low impact exercises such as walking, swimming and cycling are actually the best. It is important that all the skeletal muscles are strengthened during exercise.
What else can we do to ensure good body posture? Do not walk with your hands in your pants pockets (especially males are guilty of this). Do not slouch in a chair or couch, but sit upright with a straight back. Make sure that you sleep on a good mattress which give enough support to the whole body. Do not carry loads on one side only. Loads such as ruck sacks must be supported by both shoulders, or else the carrying thereof must be alternated from the one hand and then to the other.
The Psychology of Abusers
Abuse can take many forms, it happens in many ways and in many environments. There is currently a lot of talking about sexual harassment, also particularly thanks to TimesUp movement. There is so much abuse going on and most of it is not known or recognized. For the brave people who decide to stand up and say something, they might incur in certain behaviors from the abusers. Those behaviors might shake them even further.
Here is a short list of behaviors so that they can be a little “prepared” when they stand up. Hopefully we are going to see the END of abuse very soon.
Abusers, whatever form abuse takes, have some common behaviors if you stand up, here are a few:
– they will try to deny their wrongdoings with all their might and to do so they will try to blame you
– they will say that you have misinterpreted, that you are “too sensitive”
– they will try to make wrong, bad, guilty
– they will try to overturn the issue, saying that “it is you… “
– they will try to make you doubt of your truth and experience
– they will try to undermine you or your truth in front of other people
– they will try to isolate you from other people
– they will try to take people on their side and they will also use their authority position if they have it to do that
– they will try to erode your self-esteem and make you doubt of yourself
-they will try to make you feel you “need” them or that you won’t be successful in life
– they are terrified to be found out, so they will do all they can to prevent it to come to the light. Swiss Psychiatrist Carl Jung calls it the “shadow”. If they had not done anything wrong, they would have nothing to be afraid of.
– they will try to CONTROL you in all ways, to extraordinary extent. Control is always sick.
– they might even try to threaten you that “if you say something, they will… ” and it is all aimed at making you shut up.
All of this causes you a feeling of powerlessness.
If you have ever been bullied or abused, you might have developed STRESS, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, SELF-RAGE, SELF-ANGER, PTSD, and you NEED to take care of yourself and first HEAL yourself and then untangle all the patterns that cause you to still be linked with abuse – otherwise you would attract them again.
To get some help, please send me an email in the first instance.
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Three Cheers for the Sandwich Generation
July is Sandwich Generation Month, a chance to pay tribute to adult children who are juggling the demands of raising kids while taking care of aging parents. The number of Americans 65 and older is projected to increase from 40 million in 2010 to over 88 million by 2050, doubling the ranks of those experiencing this stressful combination of responsibilities.
We expect to take care of our growing children. After all, is not that part of the parenting job description? Even after the last kid moves out and we are settling into the empty nest, if one of them drops out of college, loses their job or separates from a partner, we let them come home. But with ailing parents it can be even more complicated.
From time to time, we all feel like there are not enough hours in the day. But for the sandwich generation, that's especially true. The stress, guilt and exhaustion that come from trying to keep so many balls in the air can be overwhelming. One goal of Sandwich Generation Month is to raise awareness. Here are some tips so you do not have to agree with all the demands by yourself:
Encourage your parents' independence. Identify what they really need you to do and what they can do for themselves. Have respect for their experience and wisdom as they make decisions and take responsibility. Step back so they do as much as they can for themselves.
Find professionals to help you out. Put this into place ahead of time if you live far away or before there is a crisis. Do your parents need the support of a geriatric case manager? Learn about health care advocates, geriatric assessments, specific gerontologists, in-home help and continuum of care.
There are community resources available. Take advantage of them. Home health and companion companies help with chores such as cooking, cleaning, laundry and grocery shopping. And adult day care centers encourage supervised time for your parents to socialize while you get a break.
Caregiver groups can be a lifesaver for you. These consist of others who are in the sandwich generation and understand exactly what your life is like. Led by a group facilitator, you'll get support, information, suggestions. You may even laugh a little as you share experiences.
You are more prepared than you think. Look back and track the strengths that have worked for you in the past when you have faced difficult circumstances.For the comfort and wellbeing of you and your parents, put them into play now.
Your attitude and behavior impact the challenges. Recognize the emotional shifts you need to make as well. Talk to friends who are having similar problems with their parents. Seeing the situation from another perspective can normalize your reactions, help you prioritize the issues and ease the transition.
Take note of the changes your family is experiencing. Remain sensitive to what your parents are going through. And come to terms with your own feelings of frustration, anger, sadness or loss. Address unfinished business with your siblings, resolve the issues and get them involved.
Pay attention to your own needs. As you absorb greater responsibility for your parents' care, make nurturing yourself a priority. Renewal gives you more energy and resilience. You'll find that being positive and centered – emotionally stronger – you're more ready to meet the challenges.
These can be very stressful times in your life. Rely on your coping strengths when you take smaller steps than you would like. Through acts of kindness you'll bring greater joy and richness into your parents' lives. When you spend intentional time with them relish their appreciation, which you deserve. And savor the power of the example that you set as your own children watch how you support their grandsparents.
(C) Her Mentor Center, 2012
Atkinson and Hilgard's Introduction to Psychology Reference Book
When you are young the world is your oyster, there are so many opportunities that are open to you and you have hundreds of different paths that are all open to you. As hard as it may sound it is advisable to have a good understanding of where you would like to go and what profession you would like to head into. If you work and study hard then there are no limits to what you could potentially achieve.
If you feel that you would like to use use your talents to help other individuals then you might want to consider a caring profession. One area of the caring profession is psychology, which is basically the study of the mental state within humans and animals.
If you feel that this could be the ideal profession for you then you will need to work through and study a number of books related on the subject. One of the best books about the industry is Atkinson and Hilgard's introduction to psychology. It has been an industry standard for a long time and now in its fifteenth revision Atkinson and Hilgard's introduction to psychology continues to deliver cutting edge and exclusive content that will help you to establish yourself within the profession.
Atkinson and Hilgard's introduction to psychology gives the reader an in-depth insight into some of the complex issues that you may have to deal with while working within the psychology sector. Section 1 looks into the nature of psychology to give the reader an overview before the book delves into more intense subjects, like psychological development, sensory processes and perception.
As you make your way through your career in psychology you will have to master the use of all of these techniques and the Atkinson and Hilgard's introduction to psychology would have a good reference book to have on your shelf to refer to from time to time to refresh your mind and ensure that you are providing your clients with the appropriate levels of care.
The rest of the book covers subjects like language and thought, motivation and personality, stress, health and coping with troublesome issues. The Atkinson and Hilgard's introduction to psychology is priced extremely reasonably when it comes to educational textbooks and it helps to provide an enlightening insight into the various issues that we as humans might face on a daily basis. Helping people to deal with their issues can be an extremely rewarding path to follow, so if it sounds like something that you would like to do then you might want to check out this reference book.